Marva Soogrim - "Nanny to the Stars"
Calm the Chaos of parenting in this episode. Marva Soogrim, renowned as the "Nanny to the Stars," graces our podcast with her extensive expertise in newborn care and parenting, gained over four decades. She explains the profound yet often tumultuous journey of parenting, emphasizing that, despite the absence of a comprehensive guidebook, parents can indeed cultivate their innate capabilities with appropriate guidance. She has worked with Julia Roberts, Reese Witherspoon, Courtney Cox, Sheryl Crow, Kristin Davis, and Laura Dern, just to name a few. Marva brings "Calm to the Chaos" of parenting with her unique approach. She helps parents tap into their own abilities with encouragement and advice. In Marva’s spare time, she visits hospitals to hold newborn babies and has traveled to many states to support military moms through Operation Homefront. She has offered parenting advice on The Today Show, CBS, and various podcasts. Marva has also written about parenting for The Huffington Post, SheKnow,s and Today's Parent. She also develops products to bring ease to new parenting through her company Marvalousbabies. Marva's unique methodologies, which she has applied successfully with notable celebrities, provide insights into establishing a serene environment amidst the inherent chaos of raising children. By fostering self-care, creating structured routines, and emphasizing calmness, she equips parents with the tools necessary to navigate the complexities of early parenthood. Join us as we delve into Marva's remarkable experiences and invaluable advice that can help transform the parenting experience into a more manageable and fulfilling endeavor.
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This is Women Road warriors with Shelly Johnson and Kathy Tucaro.
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Speaker B:Parenting is one of the most rewarding careers and one of the most challenging.
Speaker B:Kids don't come with an instruction manual, but we can learn from the experts.
Speaker B:Marva Sugrim has been called the nanny to the stars.
Speaker B:She's a newborn care and parenting expert with over 40 years of experience.
Speaker B: e to the United states in the: Speaker B:With medical assistant training and impeccable references, she began her career as a baby nurse and nanny to some of New York's most prestigious families.
Speaker B:News of her novel and calm approach to caring for babies spread and she quickly became the nanny of choice for celebrity parents.
Speaker B:She's worked with Julia Roberts, Reese Witherspoon, Courtney Cox, Sheryl Crow, Kristin Davis, and Laura Dern, just to name a few.
Speaker B:Marva brings calm to the chaos of parenting with her unique approach.
Speaker B:She helps parents tap into their own abilities with encouragement and advice.
Speaker B:Marva is a trailblazer.
Speaker B:She specializes in multiple births and has dealt with many premature babies.
Speaker B:In Marva's spare time, she visits hospitals to hold newborn babies and has traveled to many states to support military moms through Operation Homefront.
Speaker B:She's offered parenting advice on the Today Show, CBS, and various podcasts.
Speaker B:She's also written about parenting for The Huffington Post, SheKnows, and Today's Parent.
Speaker B:She also develops products to bring ease to new parenting through her company, Marvelous Babies.
Speaker B:As a mother of four, Marva can tap into the deep instinct that every parent has and help guide them in a way that fits their individual needs.
Speaker B:She teaches parents ways to make a daily schedule to follow that brings calm to the household and leaves room for the parents to take care of themselves and each other.
Speaker B:Marva is an amazing lady and we wanted to learn more, so we invited her on the show.
Speaker B:Welcome, Marva.
Speaker B:Thank you for being with us.
Speaker A:Thank you, Kathy and Shelly for having me.
Speaker A:Yes, welcome, welcome.
Speaker A:My goodness.
Speaker B:Oh yeah.
Speaker A:To be here.
Speaker B:Oh, this is so cool.
Speaker B:All I can say is wow.
Speaker B:You've had an incredible career and wealth of experience and You've helped so many people.
Speaker A:Yes, it's 44 years, to be exact.
Speaker B:Wow.
Speaker B:You know, we have a lot of questions, and first of all, I know our listeners would like to know what's it like to be a nanny to big celebrities.
Speaker B:I bet you've had some amazing experiences.
Speaker A:Yeah, I would say.
Speaker A:I would say, you know, they're human beings, and they do some extraordinary work, and they get to entertain us, and we love it.
Speaker A:And to live with them and work with them and travel with them, it's very extraordinary.
Speaker A:I would not have seen the world the way I have.
Speaker A:I have seen it, you know, traveling with them.
Speaker A:I remember going to Paris with my daughter, and she was like, mom, you know, here I.
Speaker A:I just didn't know where we were.
Speaker A:So it was.
Speaker A:You know, I've had four decades plus of, you know, amazing experiences and very rich experiences, you know, both in my work and seeing the world and seeing different cultures and their traditions and.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So now I'm ready to expand on what I've been doing and to help the world of new parents to bring calm to their chaos.
Speaker B:Oh, gosh.
Speaker B:Calm to chaos.
Speaker B:That's music to a lot of people's ears, for sure.
Speaker A:You know what I have written on my writing board, it says, out of chaos comes creation.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker A:That's what happened to me.
Speaker A:I had to be very creative.
Speaker A:Creative because, you know, you.
Speaker A:Every family, you know, that I've worked with, and every family in general have different dynamics, and, you know, they're all.
Speaker A:We are all different in the way we do things and understand things and comprehend and, you know, process.
Speaker A:And so it's a dance of sorts.
Speaker A:And so I had to bring calm to my chaos, my own chaos, because my chaos is my God.
Speaker A:I'm gonna work for these people.
Speaker A:I don't know them.
Speaker A:I.
Speaker A:I have no idea, you know, what they're like.
Speaker A:But I have to move in today and stop working with them.
Speaker A:So, you know, I've done.
Speaker A:I've done lots of that.
Speaker A:Like I said, I have lots of experiences, and there's no challenge I would back down from.
Speaker B:That's excellent.
Speaker B:Do you have any interesting stories about when you were working with celebrity families?
Speaker B:I'm sure.
Speaker B:And people would love to know that.
Speaker A:Oh, yeah, I have this one.
Speaker A:I have this one.
Speaker A:We got to the Paris.
Speaker A:We were doing a world.
Speaker A:A world tour, a world premiere.
Speaker A:And in my client at the time, she was pumping, and she tried to pump right before she left for the premiere, and the pump blew up in the hotel.
Speaker B:Oh, gosh.
Speaker A:And I had known where I had just seen a pharmacy.
Speaker A:And, you know, it's in Paris, so it's.
Speaker A:It's spelled in French, but I know it's pharmacy.
Speaker A:And so I just grabbed a card from her husband and I just took off down the street.
Speaker A:I didn't know where I was going, but I knew how to get there, so I ran.
Speaker A:And the pharmacy had just closed, and they were sweeping on the inside, you know, and I just stand outside and I held my breast and I'm showing them I need to pump because I do have, you know, big breasts.
Speaker A:Thank goodness for that day.
Speaker A:And so they ran to the door and they opened the door, you know, I'm holding my breasts.
Speaker A:You should see how I'm holding.
Speaker A:And I said, my palm blew up and I need to put on a dress that would not fit me otherwise.
Speaker A:I'm talking all this English.
Speaker A:They can understand that, you know, a dot of what I was saying.
Speaker A:But, you know, they saw me holding my breasts, so they took me to the breast bumps.
Speaker A:I bought two, and I ran back to the hotel.
Speaker A:She plugged it in, she pumped her milk, you know, and she was able to get to the premiere on time.
Speaker A:She was able to fit in her dress.
Speaker A:So, yeah, I have some, you know, very exciting and fun filling stories.
Speaker A:And it's all about how, you know, how moms and dads parent and how the journey sometimes can be very challenging.
Speaker A:And I can go right into any challenge and help, you know, bring that peaceful calm to the household.
Speaker A:And that's what I want to do for the rest of my life, to be honest.
Speaker A:How do you do that?
Speaker B:Yeah, you had some tremendous training ground.
Speaker B:Because I would imagine with celebrity families, there's no.
Speaker B:There's a lot of calm.
Speaker B:There's so many demands with their careers.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:They've got tons of, you know, the people that work twin, they are in demand.
Speaker A:They are the creme de la creme of the entertainment world.
Speaker A:And so you have, you know, different people coming in to take care from stylists and hair and makeup and, you know, a chef, a trainer, you know, making sure they're prepared for the stage.
Speaker A:And I'm in the middle with the baby.
Speaker A:So, like I said, I'm a very good life dancer.
Speaker A:So I have to bring the baby when there's a break.
Speaker A:I have to bring the baby when the baby needs to be fed.
Speaker A:Mom might be getting her hair done, but she can breastfeed.
Speaker A:And so I just make sure that they're living a normal life in all the chaos and is able to take care of their babies, you know, while they do it.
Speaker A:They want to see me do great.
Speaker B:How were you able to do that?
Speaker B:I mean, because obviously there were constantly different daily challenges.
Speaker A:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker A:It takes a kind of person.
Speaker A:Not everybody could do what I do.
Speaker A:Everybody can learn how to take care of a baby, but not everybody knows how to do that chaotic dance.
Speaker A:It's very chaotic because, you know, besides taking care of the baby and, you know, working within the schedule of the parents, you have constant travel, constant international intercontinental travel.
Speaker A:And you've got to be.
Speaker A:You got to bring your A game, you know, and my A game has no sleep in it.
Speaker B:Oh, my.
Speaker A:You know, I take little snoozes here and there, but I'm very energized, thank God, from the parents I had.
Speaker A:You know, my dad was like that.
Speaker A:Just very energized.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Not in a hyper way, but we can carry our load and we're ready anytime.
Speaker B:So a nanny really doesn't get a whole lot of sleep, especially if there's a newborn involved.
Speaker A:Yeah, there's no.
Speaker A:No proper sleep.
Speaker A:But you have to be born to do this, because you'll break.
Speaker A:It will break you.
Speaker B:Well, I think new parents really have a tough time when they have a newborn.
Speaker B:I mean, they're so excited.
Speaker B:The mother is exhausted after childbirth.
Speaker A:It's very, very exhausting because you give birth to this baby and you become a mother, and you have no idea how the hell to be a mother.
Speaker A:You've never been a mother before.
Speaker A:So you are also, you know, there's a birth that is given to you, and it's called new mom.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:So you have a new baby, a new mom, new dad, new partner, and the person that stands in the need of great help, you know, physically, psychologically, mentally, spiritually, and otherwise, is the person who had the baby.
Speaker B:Oh, yeah.
Speaker A:And because I have four children myself, I know from where they're coming in terms of what they're going through, and I know exactly how to tap, tap them and help them to, you know, go into places that it's not ordinary.
Speaker A:And, you know, we go lie down, go rest, go whatever.
Speaker A:I help them to go within and really touch base with this new part of that new part of themselves and to realize that this is here to stay and also to realize that there is a path forward and to help them not to be so overwhelmed and not to, you know, not to panic.
Speaker A:Because I think when you panic because you don't know what you're doing, it just Gives you a delay on, on your, the, the, your bliss, you know, your parenting bliss gets delayed because now you're just struggling and worrying and feeling clueless and feeling the shame and feeling all of that because you feel like you're supposed to know something more and you don't know it and you look stupid.
Speaker A:And that's just all mind games.
Speaker A:New brands don't know that, but I'm gonna help them to learn that and to dismiss those voices in their heads and to be very unapologetic for being a new parent.
Speaker B:There can be so many challenges with a newborn.
Speaker B:And of course you're playing the guessing game.
Speaker B:The child can't speak.
Speaker B:You've got to figure out what's going on.
Speaker B:And if you have a colicky baby.
Speaker B:Woo.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:And there's also different ways of parenting.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:Different viewpoints.
Speaker A:Mom might think one way and dad thinks another way.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:Or grandma pops in with her way.
Speaker A:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker A:And then grandpa is like, okay, you could stop now, honey.
Speaker A:Let's now, you know, and give them a moment to try and figure out something because, you know, they're stumbling a lot.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's very, very, very challenging.
Speaker A:But I'm here to make all those challenges.
Speaker A:You know, most of them dissipate.
Speaker B:Well, you kind of play the role of like the extended families of years ago where you had the grandmother who could come in or the mother of the new mother who could say, okay, this is what I found worked, you know, and you are giving people the insight they need.
Speaker B:Because when you're in the middle of dealing with a child that is screaming at 2 in the morning and you have to get up at 6:00am yes.
Speaker B:Oh, it's chaotic.
Speaker B:You can't think straight.
Speaker B:You're sleep deprived.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And once you sleep deprived, you start thinking that you even you had something to drink when you didn't even have something to drink.
Speaker A:Or you like most times I would be drinking something from a glass cup, whatever, and then I come back and I'm like trying to drink.
Speaker A:It's all gone.
Speaker A:You know, you're so much in automatic that you do things that you're like, oh my God, did I do that already?
Speaker A:Because you're going on next to nothing stream, especially in the first three to four months.
Speaker A:I want to put a dent in that.
Speaker A:I want to have that greatly.
Speaker B:How do you help that?
Speaker B:Because I think that that.
Speaker B:Kathy, would you say that's one of the biggest challenges with a newborn?
Speaker B:No sleep.
Speaker A:Oh my goodness.
Speaker A:Oh, my daughter's 30 now, so I gotta think way back, but no sleep.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:I think how I help that with, with my clients is I first have to get the parents to be calm.
Speaker A:And when I say I have to get the parents to be calm, it's not like they're flailing and going out of their minds in the household.
Speaker A:But they can't rest because they have to feed in two hours.
Speaker A:So I help them to get a little rest in between those two hours.
Speaker A:And I have helped women over the phone.
Speaker A:I have helped other people where I'm not in their home, you know, with them for many, many years.
Speaker A:I've done that, too.
Speaker A:And they have found solace in, in, in my work and in our work together.
Speaker A:So I want to bring that out into the world.
Speaker A:And a lot, a lot they will have to tune in for.
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Speaker B:Parenting is one of the most fulfilling jobs in the world, but let's face it, it's also one of the toughest.
Speaker B:Kids don't come with a guidebook, but we can always turn to the experts for advice.
Speaker B:Marva Sugrin, known as the nanny to the Stars, is one of these experts.
Speaker B:With over 40 years of experience in newborn care and parenting, she has truly seen it all.
Speaker B:She brings calm to the chaos and helps parents to go within and touch base with their parenting and not be overwhelmed and achieve calm.
Speaker B:She quickly became the go to nanny for some of New York's elite families and eventually celebrity parents like Julia Roberts, Reese Witherspoon and Courtney Cox.
Speaker B:Marva's calm, steady approach to parenting has earned her a reputation as a true expert.
Speaker B:And she's got a knack for helping parents tap into their unique strengths.
Speaker B:Whether it's guiding families through the chaos of multiple births or supporting military moms, Marva is a trailblazer who's made a profound impact on the parenting world through her company, Marvelous Babies.
Speaker B:She even creates products to ease the transition into parenthood.
Speaker B:Marva's message is simple.
Speaker B:With the right tools, a little calm and some self care, parents can create a peaceful home for themselves and their children.
Speaker B:Marva's been sharing her insight with us, especially the importance of calm.
Speaker B:Marva, you know, being calm, I would think is really important.
Speaker B:Infants can sense if you're tense.
Speaker A:Yes, yes, they can.
Speaker B:And that can make them more.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Irritable.
Speaker A:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker A:And then, you know, and then they're crying.
Speaker A:You don't know what they're crying for.
Speaker A:And then you're crying because you don't know how to calm them.
Speaker A:And all it is, you have to become the calm person in the house.
Speaker A:And then the family has to, like, you know, there's an adjustment, you know, process.
Speaker A:And some, there are families where, you know, there's loud music, there's lots of light in the house.
Speaker A:And so some things have to be adjusted.
Speaker B:What is the best way for a new parent to work with an infant so that they can still take care of themselves?
Speaker B:I mean, do you have some tips?
Speaker A:Yes, I think for sure, getting sleep when the baby sleep, I mean, I know it sounds very cliche and women get upset, but I think the first nap of the day, let's say you could take a little 20 minute snooze.
Speaker A:And the thing about it, you have to put the Phone away, shut the phone volume off and turn it down and at least relax without touching the phone.
Speaker A:And let's say the next time the baby takes a little bit of a nap, then you can throw in a load of laundry, you can do a couple of those things, you know, wash yourself.
Speaker A:It's all about blocking out those little bits of time when you have a baby and the baby is a lot of care.
Speaker A:So the little windows that you get has to be spent on self care and you know, house care, laundry care, I should say more laundry and you know, replenishing the diapers, replenishing, you know, having water in your room and making sure that there's some self care.
Speaker A:Because not every woman has help and those are the women I'm also going to be helping greatly, you know, from my phone doing like Instagram lives, you know, helping them to, to do things at a certain time of day so that their nights they can sleep, get sleep at night.
Speaker A:And I'm going to be doing that in the next week or two.
Speaker A:I'm going to be doing those lives at night, you know, helping them, walking with them and being with them to you know, guiding them how to take care of the baby and themselves.
Speaker A:Because the nights can be very challenging.
Speaker A:After working all day you want sleep at night and then the baby doesn't want to sleep.
Speaker A:So I'm going to be helping them to crack their own codes and their babies.
Speaker B:Is it possible to get newborns on a schedule?
Speaker B:Obviously they're hungry every four hours but I imagine that they're variations depending on the infant.
Speaker A:Yeah, I get them on a schedule schedule anywhere between three and four weeks.
Speaker A:I begin that.
Speaker B:How do you do that?
Speaker A:I, I make sure.
Speaker A:Well in the, in, in the beginning they, they eat on demand if it's a full, on a full grown newborn because some kids are premature and you have to you know, feed them on demand for a little while longer but if it's anywhere from seven, seven between seven and eight pounds by three weeks they're beginning to a full on schedule, like a three hour schedule because in the beginning they're going to want to eat every hour, hour and a half and then that goes to two and it stays on two for a while.
Speaker A:And you know, so I help my parents not to keep them on two hours for a while because they're going to get burnt out really badly.
Speaker A:So how long do you stay with these families?
Speaker A:Like just while the babies are up until a year or.
Speaker A:Yeah, most times, you know it's, it's a year I go in for six months.
Speaker A:It turns into a year.
Speaker A:I just finished twins and they.
Speaker A:I was there for a year.
Speaker B:Wow, that's a lot of moving around.
Speaker A:You know, families different.
Speaker A:Yeah, it'll be hard on you.
Speaker A:Yeah, I have.
Speaker A:I am totally a nomad woman, and I love it.
Speaker A:And I think that's how I was born to be anyhow.
Speaker A:You know, I never stay one place too long, and I've.
Speaker A:That's.
Speaker A:I.
Speaker A:I think that that helped me to be very successful because I adjust very quickly to a new place, a new country.
Speaker A:You know, wherever it is, I'm.
Speaker A:I'm fine.
Speaker A:It's like I'm home.
Speaker B:How did you raise four children and do this as well?
Speaker A:Well, well, I had, you know, a couple of family members, a couple of friends.
Speaker A:I had my own little village, and my kids were not with me for a bit, so I was able to, you know, go it without them.
Speaker A:And when.
Speaker A:When they came here, then I had people to help me, and I.
Speaker A:I worked in the city, in Manhattan, so I would see them pretty often.
Speaker A:When I moved to Los Angeles, they were.
Speaker A:The youngest was 18.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:Do you have parenting tips for the different stages of children?
Speaker B:I mean, the terrible twos?
Speaker B:That's just one stage.
Speaker A:Yeah, I think.
Speaker A:I think the most challenging time is in the first three to four months.
Speaker A:Yeah, in the first three to four months.
Speaker A:If you follow my teachings.
Speaker A:If you follow, you know, what I'm.
Speaker A:What I'm guiding you to do.
Speaker A:The terrible tools.
Speaker A:Doesn't.
Speaker A:They don't really happen too much.
Speaker B:Oh, really?
Speaker A:Interesting.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So the child isn't always saying no, because that's usually the first word they've heard.
Speaker B:So that's the first word they say.
Speaker A:Yeah, but you're the parents.
Speaker A:You're the parents, and you're the one who are going to teach this child how to be in the world one day.
Speaker A:And coming from a time where we had no idea what, how to even parent because they just, you know, they just.
Speaker A:Like we.
Speaker A:We just raised kids and there was a lot of information we did not have.
Speaker A:So since I have that information, I can help.
Speaker A:You know, it's.
Speaker A:It's not a hack, but it's a.
Speaker A:It's a great.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:I have developed, you know, many different ways to help new parents to have just a smooth time when it comes down to cultivating their newborns and beyond.
Speaker A:My work is not just for six months to a year.
Speaker A:I have done triplets for seven and a half years.
Speaker A:You know, so I've had a lot A lot of experience.
Speaker A:Experiences with helping to cultivate children.
Speaker A:And yes, they will have a little tantrum here and there, but my charges, you know, they don't.
Speaker A:Don't really have tantrums.
Speaker B:How do you deal with tantrums?
Speaker B:You can actually, based on what you teach, maybe prevent some of that.
Speaker A:That's what I'm talking about.
Speaker A:A lot of it is not happening.
Speaker A:And when it does happen, it's going to happen once in a while.
Speaker A:Mm.
Speaker A:Once in a while.
Speaker A:And when it does happen, it might be because of sleep.
Speaker A:They didn't get proper sleep.
Speaker A:So then.
Speaker A:So then you make sure.
Speaker A:If they're gonna throw themselves, you make sure that if they will.
Speaker A:If they had to lie on the floor for a minute, you held them down gently and let them cry for a few.
Speaker A:So they get their little frustrations out.
Speaker A:And once that's out, they'll be fine again.
Speaker A:And then you kept them, you know, in the car and you drive home or you get them to bed.
Speaker A:But most times when kids are having tantrums, it's because they might have had too much stimulation of, let's say, TV or phone, or they might have had something sweet, too much, you know, sweets in their diet.
Speaker A:And they might have skipped naps, or sometimes they want to skip naps, and then the adult don't know better, so they have them skip their nap and it becomes a whole, you know, combination.
Speaker A:Combination of just not knowing.
Speaker A:I think it's a not knowing.
Speaker A:Knowing how to do what you should do.
Speaker A:And once they start knowing these.
Speaker A:These different, you know, ways in which to do things a bit differently than how we do things now, then you'll find more peaceful households.
Speaker A:You know, couples are going to really get along better.
Speaker B:Well, that's huge.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So would you say structure is one of the important things, starting with infancy?
Speaker A:And it definitely must have structure, but the people who are going to have to have real structure is the parents.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:You can't just have the day go anyhow.
Speaker A:And the kids must have structure within the chaos.
Speaker B:I remember my mother always believed in that.
Speaker B:I entered the bed at the same time for years.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:I remember it frustrating me when I was little and it was summertime, it was still daylight, and I had to go to bed.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And that's how it is, you know.
Speaker A:And today, you know, a lot of the kids are having their babies, like, do what they want.
Speaker A:You don't want to do this, that's fine.
Speaker A:And so I was telling my granddaughter, you have to help him to do certain things.
Speaker A:Because when he gets to be a certain age, he's going to be too hardwired in not wanting to do the things you are asking.
Speaker A:So you have to help them at a very early age.
Speaker A:And it starts from the cradle.
Speaker B:Children are little sponges.
Speaker B:They get used to certain things.
Speaker A:Yeah, those, those little behaviors are hard to break.
Speaker B:Oh, yeah.
Speaker B:Well, yeah.
Speaker B:Once that becomes a habit.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker B:If the infant is used to having you cub every time they cry too, then, uh, yeah.
Speaker A:Do you find the mothers are really receptive to the way you teach them?
Speaker A:Mothers are becoming more and more receptive because they are damn tired.
Speaker A:They want a break, they need to sleep, they need to rest, they need to like not have those bags under their eyes.
Speaker A:So they're like, okay, I go ahead, you know, and, and they have been very successful with.
Speaker A:Because I'm, I'm, I'm sure you, you've come across some mothers who might be.
Speaker B:More protective, might be more.
Speaker A:No, that's my baby.
Speaker A:Let me hold her.
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Speaker A:You can hold the babies as much as you want only when it's nap time or when it's, you know, we, we want to create structure so they, I'm not that person who, who makes them, you know, I'm not that controller who comes in and they take the baby and, you know, and then they dictate for you, the parents, so you hardly get to touch your baby.
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Speaker A:Welcome back to Women Road warriors with Shelly Johnson and Kathy Tucaro.
Speaker B:Marva Sugrin, Nanny to the Stars, teaches parents everywhere how to tap into their own unique strengths and sidestep the overwhelm.
Speaker B:She brings calm to the chaos of new parenting or parenting multiple births.
Speaker B:She's been a highly sought after nanny to many major celebrities.
Speaker B:She works with military moms and many others on how to create a peaceful home for themselves and their children with the right tools, a little calm and self care, things like napping when the baby sleeps or doing chores when the infant sleeps, blocking out little blocks of time for self care.
Speaker B:Marva also knows how to get infants on a schedule very early.
Speaker B:As a matter of fact, parents that follow Marva's instructions will find that terrible twos really don't happen as children become toddlers.
Speaker B:Her company, Marvelous Babies, even creates products to ease the transition into parenthood.
Speaker B:She has a serious knack with babies and little ones.
Speaker B:She's been giving us tremendous insight.
Speaker B:Marva, what are some tips that you could provide our listeners right now on parenting, new parenting and well, obviously if they haven't had your help from the very beginning, they may have some things that they need to restructure with their children too.
Speaker A:Yeah, I think how I can really help people, I have a website, I have, I have a website, I have Instagram.
Speaker A:But I'm going to say in, in the, I know some people are late in the game, but I can help them to turn around sleep issues.
Speaker A:I can help them to, to, you know, put some structure in their day.
Speaker A:From next week, I'm going to be doing that on Instagram Live.
Speaker A:So people are going to be able to talk to me.
Speaker A:People are going to be able to send media issues and I'm going to be answering them.
Speaker A:This is going to be my work.
Speaker A:So I would say, you know, just take 15 minutes, go in the closet and hide and take 15 minutes and breathe and just get in touch.
Speaker A:Stay in touch with who you are.
Speaker A:Stay in touch.
Speaker A:Don't lose hope because it's only for a short time that you're going to go through this sleep deprivation and this and then we're going to bring you on the other side up and you'll be fine.
Speaker A:And before you know it, you hear a family, yeah, I'm pregnant again.
Speaker A:I know what to do this time.
Speaker B:That always helps.
Speaker B:But it's challenging when you have more than one.
Speaker B:You still have the first child that says, hey.
Speaker B:And of course then there's the jealousy factor.
Speaker A:Yes, you have that.
Speaker A:But like I said, you know, we work on all Those things.
Speaker A:And you hardly find that because with all my experiences, I know how to help every parent.
Speaker A:Yes, I know how to help them, but I have to get them to be able to help them because every situation is different.
Speaker A:If I give advice, it's going.
Speaker A:It might serve a few people, but it may not touch a whole lot of people because it's not there.
Speaker A:It's not there happening.
Speaker B:And no child responds the same way.
Speaker A:Yeah, you have that.
Speaker A:So I think the best way for me to help people would be to communicate with those people in person online.
Speaker A:And like I said, that's what I'm going to do for the rest of my life.
Speaker B:You have marvelous parent chats on your website.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:Yeah, those are one on one chats.
Speaker A:I can, I can help par.
Speaker A:I can help to guide parents into just what we're talking about.
Speaker A:They get on the phone with me, give me their questions, we go over everything and then we could check back and see where they are and help them.
Speaker A:I used to do that, you know, back in probably like 25 years ago.
Speaker A:I used to have my little notebook and write down names and times and week, you know, you know, sessions and all that stuff.
Speaker A:I'm used to doing that.
Speaker A:I'm a hard worker and I can help, you know, parents.
Speaker A:But like I said, I would say to find, you know, a few minutes, if it's 10, 15 minutes a day and you know, go in a, in a quiet space and just be with yourself, breathe and understand that this is, you know, this is something that you have wanted and some parts of it are not going to be pretty or feel pretty, but it's just a temporary situation.
Speaker A:And once you get, once you get back on your horse, then you're riding, you're riding freely and happily.
Speaker B:That would definitely help when parents get frustrated.
Speaker B:Obviously when you've got a child that's being obstinate and all of that and you've had a heck of a day and you're tired.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:You end up yelling at them and reacting in a way that is not productive.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker A:No parent never has ever done that.
Speaker B:Of course not.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Well, I could say, I could safely say that I had been the master of that.
Speaker A:So, you know, you get to learn how to do better, how to be better and how to help people start out.
Speaker A:Great.
Speaker B:Well, you've had a real challenge being a nanny.
Speaker B:You're walking into a situation where you don't know the children, you don't know the personality, you don't know the parents and their personalities.
Speaker B:You just have to hit the ground running and then figure out how you're going to make it work.
Speaker A:It's tough, man.
Speaker A:That's really tough.
Speaker A:And I have aced that one.
Speaker A:That one.
Speaker A:That's why I could help the world of new parents now because I have had so many challenges.
Speaker A:Challenges that, you know, I wouldn't find them being a challenge because I just welcome it.
Speaker A:I just welcome it and I breeze through it and I'm like, okay, this is what we do.
Speaker A:I also stay in touch with my tuition, so that have really helped my success instinct.
Speaker A:It helps me to know what you want and how you want it, and all of this is what I'm going to be teaching my.
Speaker A:My new parents.
Speaker B:You would be really good to maybe give some people some tips, like, even in high school, if they're, you know.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:On.
Speaker B:On parenting.
Speaker B:And this is what you're going to be looking at down the road.
Speaker B:Not now, but because, you know, I look around and it seems like there are a lot of parents that have kids that have.
Speaker B:They have no control.
Speaker B:These kids are just.
Speaker B:They're.
Speaker B:They're all over the place.
Speaker A:And a friend was advising me, when I get back to California to start going to the colleges, you know, giving them a call and letting them know what I'm doing and, you know, that I could come in and speak with the kids just like I did with the military.
Speaker A:I'm going to do that with the schools and with the spots where they have the teenage moms, you know, kind of like shelters and just places where new moms get to stay.
Speaker A:You know, teenage moms, and they have, you know, they have babies.
Speaker A:I'm really talking to a lot of people.
Speaker B:Teenage moms have a huge challenge.
Speaker B:I mean, they're still kids themselves.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:I just came.
Speaker A:Could you imagine?
Speaker A:I.
Speaker A:I left my work on the last day.
Speaker A:Last day of work to hop on a plane recently to come to, you know, help care for my daughter.
Speaker A:She got diagnosed with breast cancer, and she a couple of weeks ago had a double mastectomy.
Speaker A:So there's never a moment parenting.
Speaker A:My goodness, that's tough.
Speaker B:It's wonderful you could help her.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:How old's your daughter?
Speaker A:She's 47.
Speaker B:47.
Speaker A:Yikes.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And she has two kids and.
Speaker A:And one grandson was born this year.
Speaker A:So we are all here having a fun time these last couple of days, because I'm heading to California tomorrow, and then I'm gonna be starting my Instagram live where mothers can, you know, really, the mothers who really feel that they need help and they're open to listening to what I have to say.
Speaker A:They're gonna be, you know, they're going to be happy.
Speaker B:They did prayers to your daughter for quick recovery.
Speaker B:I love what you're doing, Marva.
Speaker B:You help so many people.
Speaker B:Operation Homefront with yellow Terry moms and all of that, and going into hospitals and helping, it's so necessary.
Speaker B:I think a lot of people would have loved when they thought about being a parent or became a parent to meet you years ago.
Speaker B:Your knowledge is just fabulous.
Speaker B:And the Instagram chat where people can reach out to you, that's super helpful.
Speaker A:Yeah, I'm gonna be one of the things, like I said, I think I mentioned that earlier.
Speaker A:I'm going to do like three Instagram lives and I'm gonna have a guest, maybe one guest, one professional guest every two weeks.
Speaker A:And then I am going to do like night lives, like, let's say midnight at 2:00am you know, moms can join me and talk to me online, tell me about their babies and what's happening, and I'll let them know, kind of like how to help their situations.
Speaker A:So I'll be up at night with.
Speaker A:With my moms, with my marvelous moms.
Speaker B:I love it.
Speaker B:And it's marvelous mindset, Marvelous babies.
Speaker B:I love the name of it.
Speaker B:Marvelousbabies.com People can get more information about you.
Speaker B:There's a picture of you on your marvelous mindset page.
Speaker B:You just look so serene holding that baby.
Speaker B:You really do.
Speaker A:I have gotten jobs because I would go someplace with one client and then somebody else saw me from afar.
Speaker A:And one gentleman in particular, a huge deal in the business, in the entertainment business, he called me and hired me.
Speaker A:He said, you know, I saw you at xyz, you know, place, and the way you, you.
Speaker A:You took the baby from the mom told me a whole lot about you.
Speaker B:You know, it's true if somebody doesn't know how to hold an infant and they're suddenly handed that infant, the infant can sense you don't know what the heck you're doing and will start crying.
Speaker A:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker A:So it's hard to say, like, right away, you know, what is going to work for someone unless I know, like, what's happening.
Speaker A:But some tips I could.
Speaker A:I could give is like, make sure you're hydrated.
Speaker A:Because when you are taking care of children, two things you do not do is drink water and pee.
Speaker A:You know, so making sure you're hydrated, making sure.
Speaker A:Having some snacks, if you can sit down to eat, but please make sure that you, you're making your meal by drinking lots of liquids and that your, your mind is in a good place and, and you feel good and strong.
Speaker A:And these little tips, you know, go for a walk, take the baby for a walk.
Speaker A:These things are going to mentally build you for parenting.
Speaker B:Well, when you go for a walk you're probably building endorphins.
Speaker B:Those are the grift, feel good hormones, that's always a good thing.
Speaker B:And fresh air, happy hormones.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:And when you're sleep deprived, you're not always happy.
Speaker A:Oh no.
Speaker A:But with sleep deprived you get up, you wash your face with cold water and you just kind of walk in place for five minutes.
Speaker A:These are the things I do because remember I'm not sleeping when I would work, I'm not sleeping so I would wash my face or jump in the shower.
Speaker A:I'm not telling new parents, new moms, but you know, after a while you just open the warm water on you and then close it off and open the cold water in you and that really gets you going.
Speaker B:So people can go to your website@marvelousbabies.com that's spelled M A R V A L O U S B A b I e s.com and you have chat sessions, you have actually 90 minute sessions you can do with people too.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:And like I said, they can ask me all their questions and I'll give them, I'll give them guides so that they can integrate it in, in their daily lives.
Speaker A:And then next chat we'll see where we are and you know, but you'll get fast results.
Speaker A:I'm not going to have a parent just hanging on and coming on, coming on sake to pay me.
Speaker A:You're going to have, you know, quick results.
Speaker B:Oh gosh.
Speaker B:You're just what the doctor ordered.
Speaker A:And so you won't be calling the doctor every five minutes.
Speaker B:Sure.
Speaker B:I mean that's always the fear.
Speaker B:What's my baby doing?
Speaker B:Because babies bodies are a little bit different than adults.
Speaker A:There's also the fear of crib death.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:I mean that's a real thing.
Speaker A:So you know, people get paranoid and now, you know, they have like so many different monitors which are great but what that does.
Speaker A:The parents can't sleep because now they're watching the monitors all the time.
Speaker A:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker A:Every little movement they panic, they get a ping on their phones and they're like oh my God, you know, so you have that too.
Speaker A:So there's a lot for us to, a lot of work for us to do.
Speaker A:And I'm ready.
Speaker B:I think it's a blessing that you're here to help so many people.
Speaker B:You truly have a wonderful talent.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker B:This has been marvelous talking to you, Marva.
Speaker A:Yes, it has.
Speaker A:Same here.
Speaker A:Same here.
Speaker A:Kathy and Shelley and I look forward.
Speaker B:To seeing what else you're doing.
Speaker B:Definitely keep us posted.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:I'm gonna follow you guys on Instagram.
Speaker A:I think I did.
Speaker B:Oh, thank you.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:When we're on Facebook and LinkedIn and Twitter and Pinterest and YouTube all over the place.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So you'll see what's happening.
Speaker B:That's terrific.
Speaker B:Thank you, Marva.
Speaker B:It's been great having you on the show.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker A:I look forward to talking to you again in a bit.
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